As a parent, I knew it was essential to teach my kids perseverance. You just can’t beat it when it comes to, say, finishing chores, completing homework, getting into and through college, and finding and keeping a job. Throw in friendships and community, dating and marriage—not to mention raising children—and the skill of perseverance just […]
It is essential to understand the big picture of parenting before we jump into the day to day job of parenting. The big picture should coordinate our parenting actions, it tells us which are the big rocks I need to deal with and what are the small rocks that may irritate us but aren’t that […]
The verse we shared earlier from Proverb 4:23, tells us to guard our hearts for that is the source of everything we do. Whether good or bad, heart beliefs have strong influence in what we do every day. Heart beliefs have a depth of commitment that makes them part rational and part emotional. You […]
First, we work at determining the belief(s) that are fueling the bad behavior. Then we can help the child replace it with a truthful belief. The lie has been reinforced repetitively so the truth will take time to work into the lie’s slot. You have to replace the lie with a simple sentence that […]
THE INNER-WORKINGS OF A CHILD Behaviors, Attitude and Interests Heart Beliefs Your 6th grade daughter is convinced she is ugly but you wonder, ‘ in what mirror she is looking.’ Your 5 year old throws fits everytime you go into Target or Walmart. Your six year old is wanting other children to […]
Your Children’s Beliefs Are Key to Changing Undesirable Behavior! Have you ever had the experience of seeing your child do something that stops you and causes these words to come across your mind and maybe your lips, ‘what the heck, where did that come from? Whoa, we are not going to put up with […]
(The most powerful parenting tool is children seeing a mom and dad in love) There is a section of scripture that speaks to a problem that raises its head in many marriages. The scripture says, “5 You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.6 Though he was God, he did not think of equality with […]
When I was a boy, my father ran a Texaco service station in the Lower Catskill Mountains of New York State. Built 35 feet off Hwy 209, our station sat on a pie-shaped lot with 240 feet of highway frontage. A vacationing town, Godeffroy’s population topped 5,000 in the summer. In the winter, the tourists […]